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Last night I got home and you could cut the tension in my house with a knife. My daughter was angry with her father and her father wasn't trying to hear it.

I hate coming home to such nonsense. Only the dog acted like he loved me. My son wasn't home, but when he walked in, the first thing he said was what was wrong with me.

I see her dad trying to control her every move, unnecessarily. She is the child that I honestly think has taken my teachings to her heart and listened to me. Unfortunately, I think he sometimes he sees a lot of me in her and doesn't want her to stray.

She has a lot of self-respect and does not portray herself as what the kids call a bust-down...

She has an older guy friend, and its a sore subject. She was a freshman and he was a senior when they met. He played baseball with her brother so they were always in close contact.

Yes, she had a crush on him and he honestly liked her and I think he still does. Last summer we sat down and had a talk with the both of them. We let him know that she was not allowed to date and probably would not be allowed to date him when she turned 16 because of the age difference. Also, because he is a freshman in college now and she is just a sophomore in high school.

We didn't completely ban contact, you know how that would have turned out, but it was set that he could not come to our house her unless we were home.

So he has graduated and visits the school at times and the other day he came to the school and walked into the Gym with her...and her dad was there, the first thing both he and her brother did was interrogate her. Asking where have you been all day.

They thought she had been with him all day. That really hurt her. That hurts me, that they thought that she was like that. That she was like me...

Her dad also jumped down her throat about hugging people. He is not affectionate, she and I are. Very. Can that be misunderstood? I suppose so.

But he won't listen to neither of us.

I tried to talk to him yesterday about what was going on and the first thing he says is, don't you have a good relationship with your daughter.

Then I say to him, what did you say to her.

I knew she was hurt and angry but she is intimidated by him and won't always tell me when he is around.

She finally told me and if you could have seen the hurt in her face...I wanted to cry.

He told her he would put his foot in her ass if her grades dropped. She has about a 3.8 on a 5 point scale, and that is not easy to keep up...

He thinks its because of her staying at the school and managing the basketball and baseball teams.

He yelled at her about hugging and touching people.

I guess he doesn't understand that its because of him and her brother that she feels comfortable around them and the sports. All of her life she has been at the baseball field with her father, now he doesn't want her to be around because she is a young lady now.

I went back in the room and closed the door to talk to him in private. I warned him that if he kept this up, he would shove her in the direction that he didn't want her to go and lose her like he lost our first daughter...he told me to get out of his face...

We raised her well, she has both of us. My openess and his mean streak. She don't take no shit off those boys at all.

But he doesn't see that. What I think he sees sometimes is me. He knows of my past and some of the things I have done and doesn't want that for her.

He doesn't trust that I have armed her with knowledge and information that I didn't have. That we talk about everything. That she says she isn't interested in sex ruining her life.

But he doesn't trust either of us.